Discover the 90/10 Principle

Discover the 90/10 Principle.


What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.

What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us.

We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic.

We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.

How? By your reaction.

You cannot control a red light. But you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

Let's use an example.

You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened.

What happens next will be determined by how you react.

You curse.

You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.

Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.

After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.

When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.

Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.

Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is "D".

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.

Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.

Why?

Because of how you REACTED.

You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you!

React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them?

WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?

Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.

You are told you lost your job.

Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.

The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on.

Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse..

Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.

The result?

Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.

It CAN change your life!!!

How to build confidence

1. SPEND TIME WITH PEOPLE, WHO LIKE YOU AND CARE ABOUT YOU.
   


2. IGNORE AND STAY AWAY FROM PEOPLE WHO PUT YOU DOWN OR TREAT YOU BADLY.
   


3. DO THINGS THAT YOU ENJOY OR THAT MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD.
   


4. REWARD YOURSELF FOR YOUR SUCCESS.
   


5. DEVELOP YOUR TALENTS.
   


6. BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND, TREAT YOURSELF WELL AND DO THINGS THAT ARE GOOD FOR YOU.
   


7. MAKE GOOD CHOICES FOR YOUSELF AND DONT LET OTHERS MAKE CHOICES FOR YOU.
   


8. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOURSELF, YOUR CHOICES AND YOUR ACTIONS.
   


9. ALWAYS DO, WHAT YOU BELIEVE IS RIGHT.
   


10. BE TRUE TO YOURSELF.
    


11. RESPECT OTHERS AND TREAT THEM RIGHT.
    


12. TREAT OTHERS THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE TREATED.
    


13. SHOW KINDNESS AND CONSIDERATION.
    


14. LIKE YOURSELF ENOUGH TO BE YOURSELF.
    


15. ACCEPT OTHERS FOR WHO THEY ARE.
    


16. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.
    


17. NEVER QUIT.
    


18. DONT BE HOPELESS.
    


19. GIVE THE WORLD THE BEST YOU HAVE.
    


20. AND NEVER FORGET, NO PROBLEM IS WITHOUT A SOLUTION......

Thoughts for the week

Here are the thoughts for the week:

• "If you are not criticized, you may not be doing much." - Donald H. Rumsfeld

• "The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today. Let us move forward with strong and active faith." - Franklin D. Roosevelt

• "The things you own end up owning you." - Chuck Palahniuk

• "Let no man pull you low enough to hate him." - Martin Luther King Jr

• "Knowledge and timber shouldn't be much used till they are seasoned." - Oliver Wendell Holmes

• "If the world is to be healed through human efforts, I am convinced it will be by ordinary people, people whose love for this life is even greater than their fear."- Joanna R. Macy

• "All of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon - instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today."- Dale Carnegie

• "Flowers grow out of darker moments." - Corita Kent

• "We succeed only as we identify in life, or in war, or in anything else, a single overriding objective, and make all other considerations bend to that one objective."- Dwight D. Eisenhower
  

• I don't think necessity is the mother of invention - invention, in my opinion, arises directly from idleness, possibly also from laziness. To save oneself trouble."- Agatha Christie

Nice thoughts

Dear All, Here are the thoughts for the day:

Thought 1: "Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy"
- Norman Vincent Peale

Thought 2: "Far better to think historically, to remember the lessons of the past. Thus, far better to conceive of power as consisting in part of the knowledge of when not to use all the power you have. Far better to be one who knows that if you reserve the power not to use all your power, you will lead others far more successfully and well."
- A. Bartlett Giamatti


Thought 3: "Pain nourishes courage. You can't be brave if you've only had wonderful things happen to you."
- Mary Tyler Moore

Thought 4: "Concentration comes out of a combination of confidence and hunger."
- Arnold Palmer

Thought 5: "We can learn nothing except by going from the known to the unknown."
- Claude Bernard

Thought 6: "I am where I am because I believe in all possibilities."
- Whoopi Goldberg

Thought 7: "I always wanted a happy ending... Now I've learned, the hard way, that some poems don't rhyme, and some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it without knowing what's going to happen next. Delicious ambiguity."
- Gilda Radner

Thought 8: "The trouble for most people is they don't decide to get wealthy, they just dream about it."
- Michael Masterson

Thought 9: "It is one of the most beautiful compensations of this life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself."
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Thought 10: "All labor that uplifts humanity has dignity and importance and should be undertaken with painstaking excellence."
- Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

Thoughts

"It is never too late to give up our prejudices."
- Henry David Thoreau

"The aim of life is self-development. To realize one's nature perfectly - that is what each of us is here for."
- Oscar Wilde

"You don't get paid for the hour. You get paid for the value you bring to the hour."
- Jim Rohn

"Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself."
- Leo Tolstoy

"Happiness depends upon ourselves."
- Aristotle

"No one forgives with more grace and love than a child."
- Real Live Preacher

"Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at 20 or 80. Anyone who keeps learning stays young. The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young."
- Henry Ford

"Every instance of heartbreak can teach us powerful lessons about creating the kind of love we really want."
- Martha Beck

Nice Thoughts

• Never tell your problems to anyone...20% don't care and the other 80% are glad you have them.
  -Lou Holtz

• Never explain yourself. Your friends dont need it and your enemies wont believe it.
  -Belgicia Howell

• Forgive your enemies, but never, never forget their names.
  -John F. Kennedy

• You must experience and accept the extremes. Because if the contrast is lost, you lose appreciation; and when you lose appreciation, you lose the value of everything.
  -Philippos

• The true measure of a man is how hetreats someone who can do him absolutely no good.
  -Ann Landers

• Being sad with the right people is better than being happy with the wrong ones.
  -Philippos

• Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too.
  -Will Smith

• If your problem has a solution then...why worry about it? If your problem doesnt have solution then...why worry about it?
  -Chinese Proverb

• Laugh when you can, apologize when you should, and let go of what you can't change. Kiss slowly, forgive quickly, take chances, give everything and have no regrets. Life's too short to be anything but happy.

• The ultimate measure of man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.
  -Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

• Pain never really goes away; you just elevate and get used to it by growing stronger.
  -Philippos

• You have to take the good with the bad, smile with the sad, love what you've got, remember what you had, learn from your mistakes, but never regret, people change, things go wrong, but remember life goes on!

• Always put yourself in the other's shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the person too. Sometimes the people who hurt us the most are people who were hurt more than us.
  -Philippos

• Our tears are what happens when it rains deep inside our hearts and we cannot hold the rain any longer. -Philippos

• I like to pretend that everything's alright. Because when everybody else thinks you're fine, sometimes you forget for a while that you're not. "Reputation is what men and women think of us; character is what God and angels know of us."
  -Thomas Paine

• The things that made me stronger are the ones that didnt let me sleep at first.
  -Anonymous

Interesting quotes

Here are some interesting quotes:

• Arguing with your Boss is like 'wrestling with a pig in mud'. After a while, you realize that while you are getting dirty, the pig is actually 'enjoying it'.

• Help a man when he is in trouble andhe will remember youwhen he is in trouble again !!!!

• Complex problems have simple,easy to understand wrong answers.

• It is not exactly cheating,I prefer to consider it 'creative problem solving'.

• Behind every 'successful woman',is a man who is surprised !!!!

• Whoever said 'money can't buy happiness',didn't know where to shop.

• Alcohol 'doesn't solve any problems',but then again, neither does milk.

• Most people are only 'alive' becauseit is illegal to shoot them.

• I'm not a complete idiot,there're still some parts missing !!!!

• Forgive your enemies butremember their names.

• The number of people watching youis directly proportional to the stupidity of your action.

• I remember the time I was kidnapped and they sent a piece of my finger to my father ....- He said he wanted more proof.

• Some pain is physical and some is mental,but one that's both is dental !!!!

• Life is pleasant, death is peaceful.It's the transition that's troublesome.

• LOVE YOUR JOB BUT NEVER FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR COMPANY, COZ' U NEVER KNOW WHEN COMPANY STOPS LOVING YOU